I read Claudia's prompt recently (okay, months ago now since she wrote it in APRIL!!!) (http://my--fascinating--life.blogspot.com/2012/04/your-turn-whats-working.html) & thought that's really cool, I'd love to participate in that. And then life happened (aka running your own business & having 4 kids under six) and I totally forgot about it until this moment.
So I'm attempting a combined post of "what's working" and "what piece of advice..." I would give (about mothering, working from home, heck, who knows!). Maybe we'll spin it further & turn it into a Q&A session. You can leave me a comment about that.
- You can do anything you want to do. When you put your heart, mind & soul up to it - "it" delivers. Crazy, but true.
- That phrase, "time will pass anyway" is true. If you want to do something, make a plan & make it happen. Why put it off? Time will pass anyway.
- Toddlers, preschoolers & kindergarteners are most likely to eat a) whatever you are eating or b)anything you are eating that you've said is only yours & is yucky and only for mommy. The answer is a & b. Promise.
- Sunshine at 8:30pm is only rivaled by sunshine at 11pm. If you have never lived in this world, you have to try it at least once.
- Tea makes almost everything better.
- So does Thai take-out on a Friday night.
- How do I take four kids under the age of six (formerly five) to the grocery store (or any store) with me? The answer: I try not to! And if we have to, it's very much like thee old "stick'a-butta" list from Sesame Street. We try to remember just a couple of things & get in & out - in 45 minutes. (Or an hour and a half, truth be told.)
- Yes, that's a quick trip for us.
- Drink life with your glass half-full (or even fuller when possible). I promise it tastes so much better when you do.
- Having 10 month* old twins is SO.MUCH.EASIER than having newborn twins. Promise. It only gets easier. Somewhere around 5-6 months you can feel it. (*ETA clearly I started the list several months ago. That should also tell you something about having twins. ;) ha.)
- I don't have much money, but if I did, I'd buy a big house where ... we both could live. Songs are meant to be sung. And lived & breathed. Dance in the kitchen with your babies. It will become one of their favorite things to do.
- Every child is different. I've had one that didn't "sleep through the night" until well after 14 months, others at 7 weeks. I had one that started signing before 6 months and others that could say their name by 10 months & 13 months. Do not be worried if your child isn't doing this or didn't do that until xyz. Children grow at their own pace.
- Surround yourself with kind people.
- And for every person who is unkind, try to remember the strangers that extended more unexpected kindness than you could have imagined. I can think of two of those right now: one gentlemen who came up to me after a very, very long flight with two squirming children & said, "you did a great job. They did so well on the plane." I almost cried right then. That gentlemen will never know the mommy-boost he gave me in that moment. Or maybe he could sense that I needed it. Another was more recent, at the grocery store, a grandma-figure said what it often heard, "Oh my, you have your hands full" but without missing a beat followed it with, "and you are so very blessed, aren't you" why yes I am.
- Be passionate. We need more passionate people in the world. More who are wanting & willing to change the world.
- After the first couple of months, ditch the onesies, it's soooooo much easier not to have to deal with crotch snaps!
- And please, by all means, if you are giving clothing to a friend with twins, just nix the snaps all together. Zippers & clothing without snaps are her friend. No lie.
- It works for us to have a regularly set bedtime. Some kids get up early no matter what. We have those kids. So if they stay up late & then get up early - guess what, no one wins. Best to have them go to bed when they are tired.
- I will add that I am not a morning person. So this is not working for me. But it is what it is, you know. (I try to) Go with the flow.
- What works more than anything right now? To slow down. Be a mom to four. Be a small business owner doing what I love to do, at the pace that works for myself & my family. It works to be more of me & less of what others may want from me.
What's on your list?
PS - I love her cooking example. You know what works for me? Not cooking. I handed that over to the mister before we were even married.